I was working as an attendant at the Sri Lanka National Hospital When I met my husband for the first time and I got married to him in year 2000.

I’ve been married 11 years now, and have a daughter of 9 years. My husband was slightly alcoholic at the beginning, but it was bearable. However, things got worse with time. He would come home drunk late every night, and harass me. I’d have to listen to all he has to say or else he’d drag me by my hair and beat me up. He has never given me money for my expenses. He has neither spent for our daughter’s needs.

Unable to bear this any longer I left the house with my daughter, and went to reside with my mother. He wasn’t tolerated there. But one day, he got hold of me at my workplace and mercilessly beat me up. This is when I made a complaint to the Women In Need Desk at the hospital.

In the meantime, my husband had become a burden on his family as well, and they had arranged for him to go abroad. The 3 years that he was away from my daughter and me were the most peaceful years of my marital life, even though he didn’t send a penny for our existence. The 3 years passed and he was back in our lives. I was proven wrong to have thought that he’d have changed. The violent and vicious cycle started all over again. The visits to my work place became frequent. He demanded for money, and brutally assaulted me if I had no money to give him. My daughter would shake in fear at the sight of her father. She witnessed the violence every night. I had made a number of complaints to the police with no avail. It was when he visited our daughter’s school, drunk and out of his mind, that I decided- this had to stop.

I finally picked up the courage to seek the help of Women In Need.

A year and a half since the divorce, my daughter and I have felt so much safer and happier. I have also been a part of the Support Group Programme by WIN which has truly changed my life.